Posted on 28 Jun 2014 Views 37287 Comments 23

Diet friends or diet enemies?

Is anyone sabotaging your diet?

Congratulations for choosing to lose weight with Slim & Save. Our team of experts is here to help and support you on your weight-loss journey. As well as Slim & Save, it’s great to have the support of family and friends along the way. Sometimes, however, you may experience people around you who seem to go out of their way to try to make you fail.

If you have ever come across a ‘diet saboteur’ then this feature gives you some really useful tips on how to deal with those who seem desperate to see you slip up.

Let’s look at the different types of diet saboteur:

Controlling Partners

Whether this is your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend, your partner should be there to support you – always! Sometimes partners act in the opposite way and may even go out of their way to try to make you fail. This is possibly because they do not want you to become more attractive and thus more desirable to other people (who could become rivals for your affections). The way to deal with a controlling partner is to explain that losing weight will make you feel better about yourself and being happier and more positive will, in turn, benefit your relationship with them. If it’s the term ‘meal replacement diet’ or ‘VLCD’ that concerns them, then reassure your loved one by explaining that VLCDs have been used safely for decades by hundreds of thousands of people who have lost weight steadily and efficiently. You could also guide them to the Slim & Save website and let them take a look at the numerous success stories of people, just like you, who have lost weight on our VLCD programmes.

Diet Saboteur

Jealous Friends

If you don’t see your friends too regularly then they may be surprised how you physically change as you lose weight. During your weight-loss journey you may have a few weeks gap between seeing your friends. So, for example, you might have last seen them when you were a size 18 and next time you see then you are a size 14. This can be a surprise for them and whilst most friends will praise your achievement some might find it threatening as it uncovers their own lack of self-esteem. Reiterate to them that your body may have changed but your friendship remains the same and that you value their ongoing support. Tell them how easy it is to lose weight with Slim & Save and if they want to, you can help them start a weight-loss journey too.

Crafty Colleagues

We all have one in our office – a little Princess who has the perfect figure and never needs to worry about what she eats. She might seem all sweetness and light but if she feels insecure she may try and trip you up. To stop you stealing her limelight she could start bringing you in cakes and sweets or putting extra sugar in your coffee etc. etc. If you think she is scheming against you then it’s best to confront her. Tell her firmly that you are on a diet and cannot be tempted as you are really happy with Slim & Save. Suggest that instead of spending money on cakes and treats for you that she donates the money to charity!

Needy Babies

Those of you who have children will know how demanding life as a parent can be. Having to prepare kids’ favourites such as fish-fingers and chips or sausage and mash can be hard going. Kids love crisps and chocolate and keeping a supply of treats in the house for them can also be very tempting. If your kids demand your time and attention then don’t turn to comfort food or be tempted to finish off their mealtime remains. Instead, either scrape their plates directly into the bin or freeze suitable leftovers IMMEDIATELY. If they demand snacks then insist that they alternate chocolate with healthy snacks like fruit.

Scaremongers

Some people love to tell a scare story. Think of how many ‘urban myths’ exist today because of gossip intended to instil fear. If you know somebody who insists that they know better then take time to tell them the facts about VLCDs:

Why Slim & Save Works

Slim & Save experts understand that weight-loss needs to be safe. Quite simply, weight-loss occurs when you reduce the amount of calories that you consume. Fewer calories = more fat burned to make energy = weight-loss (that’s why Very Low Calorie Diets ‘VLCDs’ are so effective). If you follow the Slim & Save weight-loss programme as directed then you will lose weight quickly and safely.

In summary, keep positive and your positivity will definitely beat the bullies.

Comments on Diet friends or diet enemies?
Mouse 29/03/2017 12:27
When I first consulted my GP about doing a VLCD he gave me an "oh, for goodness sake" look and asked why I couldn't just follow the NHS healthy eating guidelines. My response was that if it were that easy I'd have done it already, and that following a plan such as S&S ensures that (1) I don't go too low and end up malnourished or with other health issues, (2) I will get 100% of my required nutrients, something I couldn't guarantee if I 'go it alone' as I'm not a dietician, and (3) my portion sizes are easy to control.
He listened, thought for a moment, then said they were all good points and gave me his blessing. And time has proved me right - you don't just lose weight, you do so safely become healthier. So yah boo sucks to the naysayers!!
Jennifer Goodall 28/03/2017 09:00
A great article as we hear so often about unsupportive friends and or family. Always remember you are doing this for you and that is all that matters.
lindsey elloitt 09/08/2014 20:09
I start Monday and am already dreading my husband's attitude previous diets have shown his not supportive or happy for me. And doesn't seem to want me to be happy in my self.
It's not going to be easy and I'm not giving in this time I'm 30 and I deserve this.
I will be skinny !!!!!
Windy 14/07/2014 17:42
When I told hubby I was going on this diet he said 'ok, me too'. We haven't told anyone we're on it as we'd like to get to the ketosis stage first. We're both determined to give it our best shot as we both have over 3 stone to lose
tracy 02/07/2014 21:18
I am on week one and think im doing really well as I still am cooking my partners meals without pinching any but he came home with huge take away pizza and cheesy fries and beers how mean :(
Kelly Roberts 02/07/2014 01:00
I am so pleased to say that I am lucky to have my hubby 100% behind me and to be honest its mw that sabotages my hard work but I have restarted and I am not messing it up this time. I am a week in and 7 pounds down :0
vicky flynn 01/07/2014 22:38
Sabotage my diet! Not likely.. The problem is we are ready for change but our friends and family are not. People don't usually like change especially when they can see you are changing for the better and feeling happy about it.

Its easy for them to say "wow you`ve done so well, you deserve a treat - go on - one wont hurt"! Before you know it they are thrusting your favourite food in your hands...the key is to stay focused and firm on what you are doing and why you are doing it. I think we are secretly pricking their conscience that maybe they need to lose weight too! When we give in and take the treat which can knock us off balance, they are subconsciously happy that we have proven to them that diets don't work so they need not bother anyway!

Then there is the "don't lose any more- you are going to thin gang", friends who are not used to seeing you look so good. They want their old friend back because they enjoyed your company & old eating habits. Some of my friends have never had a weight problem so its complete negativity "what you doing that for- its not even food",they don't understand but are quite happy to show you their latest fashion venture-obviously size 10 -I have to swallow it and that makes me even more determined to fight the flab!

Then when you have managed to get through the above the other half suddenly realises that you look great....jealousy creeps in....you`re not going out next week are you?...What are you doing this for you looked ok before? Do you think I need to lose a few pound? You are always out walking or exercising....

I have had to make BBQ`s, food shop,dish out takeaways,cook all meals and even had my 12 year old thrust my favourite crisps into my hands!!!

But hey...I am going to do this with or without them..its my journey, my body, my life!

So
Rachael 01/07/2014 20:54
My father in law that I am very close to is a very large man himself. Every time I started a diet he would cook meals for me to freeze or book a table because I either needed treating or because I looked like I needed feeding up. It took me months before I twigged he just hated me losing weight as it made him feel bad about his extra stones. I was always too polite to say no as I was worried about hurting his feelings, however I was hurting mine more so I toughened up, said no, explained this was about me and not him!! a year on and 7 stone lighter he now respects that its my choice to stay slim, just as it's his choice to stay big!!
Keely Crichtom 01/07/2014 19:58
Friends - sadly they think just one glass (or bottle) of wine won't hurt. I don't have to drink to be sociable!
Amanda 01/07/2014 11:52
My son ! he constantly whinges for ice cream, chocolate and cheese (blame the nursery here, they had an ice cream booth, feed him cheese for snack time and make chocolate cupcakes!) i rarely buy ice cream in, but i have to admit when i want him to be quiet I'll buy him some. we end up getting two mini tubs and because i can taste egg (i hate egg by the way, blame my mother who poisoned me with them) we go for the "healthy option" which is a cashew vegan version, still calorific. Did i mention hes very fussy too and this is one of the few ways to "fatten him up" but at the same time "fating myself up too".

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